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Return from the Deep Dark Cave: Tale of a Full-time Working Mother

After obtaining a Master’s degree, I moved many hundreds of miles away to become a full-time working mother. At the time, my son was just 3 months old and my daughter was in middle school. I thought that I could be Supermom and do it all. I mean, throughout college I was winning awards, presenting at conferences, working more than 40 hours a week and taking 5 graduate courses some semesters. So, why couldn’t I have a baby, work full time, never sleep, guide a teenager, take another graduate class, chair several committees, participate in volunteer work, write a novel, breastfeed for at least 2 years, and manage to clean the house, exercise regularly, shop for dinner and eat healthy meals?!

Although I should have guessed that things wouldn’t be as easy with a baby, somehow time and hope make you forget how difficult it is.

After months of coming home too mentally and physically exhausted to do more than stare at things and mumble silly utterances — not only because my son decided he was NEVER going to sleep through the night — I decided that I was near crazy and many things needed to change immediately.

Well, “immediately” took about 1 year because I stubbornly grasped onto the naive thought that I could make it work. But after continuously feeling, as Bilbo wisely said, “…thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread”, I took a long vacation. It was only then that I fully realized what I had been missing: My family.

We didn’t really need the stuff that my income allowed us. And my children certainly didn’t need a mom so wrapped up with work and projects that she couldn’t spend more than an hour or two an evening with her loved ones. After attempting to be Supermom for nearly two years, I was burnt out and not much of a mom at all. So, I opted to make a few drastic decisions; I let go of my titles and projects, altered my career ambitions, and walked out of the deep, dark cave and into the sunlight. I’m working a part-time position, getting healthy again, making my family my first priority, and being a real Supermom in the way that works best for me and my family.



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Adventures in Crib Purchasing (Day 32): Lessons Learned

1) After selecting a crib that you’ll love to live with for at least 5 years, check for reviews about the chosen crib before purchasing it. Amazon.com even has Proposition 65 warnings for those of us without the privilege of living in California.

2) When you find the crib you love, don’t get attached until you know it is in good condition or that one in good condition is obtainable before the baby arrives! Buy a crib when you have  5-6 months to go, in order to have time to deal with potential problems and delays.

cracked crib

3) If you decide to purchase at a store or have the item shipped to a store, have the clerk at the store check your box for everypossible issue with the item before leaving…especially when the store is 20 minutes or more away. Are all the tools and screws there? All the boards without cracks and dents? Does the finish look good? Even the most expensive and sturdy cribs may have problems.

4) If something goes wrong, exchange or return the crib to the store immediately! Do not keep the crib and wait for parts to arrive at your door. If you do, replacement parts may arrive in the wrong shade, with similar problems, or incorrect parts will be sent.

5) Although I am currently waiting on my 3rd crib to arrive, a great crib will be found and obtained eventually! It helps if you know someone with natural great luck and let them help you choose one. 🙂

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